The Coterie

The narcissist/psychopath does not work alone.

She creates a coterie, a group of people whose job it is to elevate her publicly and privately and to play various roles in her cruel self-serving schemes.

Some coteries are temporary, cultivated for a particular project. Others last longer.

All are discarded when the N/P has no further use for them, and members may eventually become targets themselves.

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Should I Work With Narcissistic Clients?

I’m often asked by psychotherapists and coaches whether it’s a good idea to take on narcissistic clients. Unfortunately, there’s no definitive answer.


Narcissism is a continuum. Your potential client may have many traits, high on the continuum. Or s/he may have just a few, and they may be weak, strong, or a combination. If a client is at the low to low-moderate end of the spectrum and has high self-awareness, strong motivation, and

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How to Stop Falling In Love With Narcissists

Narcissists and Psychopaths know how to make themselves very attractive to you.

And if you have a habit of becoming romantically involved with them, it is very likely indeed YOU know how to make yourself attractive to THEM.

Yes, it’s a dance.

You are dancing too, but it’s unlikely you’re aware of it.

That is the bad news.

The good news is …

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